Finding Your Fierce

There isn't a lesson at school called What To Do When Your Entire Life Suddenly Becomes a Bundle of PDFs. Nobody teaches you what a court order is, how to prepare a bundle, what disclosure means, how to read legal language or how to keep functioning when decisions about your home, finances, children and future are being discussed in words you barely understand. And nobody prepares you for sitting in a room with someone you have spent years learning how to feel safe from. That

"Sometimes it feels like I’m watching life through glass—present but not really here. This ‘zombie mode’ isn’t laziness or indifference; it’s dissociation. A survival strategy the brain uses when reality becomes too much. In this blog, I share what it looks like from the inside, why it happens, and how to recognise the signs so you know you’re not alone."

I was made redundant this week—and instead of collapsing, I treated it as a cocoon. This piece blends story and science: what trauma does to the brain, why it often hits women (especially neurodivergent women) harder, and my COCOON framework to move from survival to strength. If you’re navigating shock, burnout or big change, these gentle, practical steps—breath, grounding, reframing, micro-actions and community—will help you grow wings.